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If there is an immediate danger to life, please dial 999 or go to your nearest Accident and Emergency Department.

I am in Gloucestershire

If you or someone you know needs help in a mental health crisis, call our crisis teams.

Call 0800 169 0398.

And choose one of the following options depending on your location:

  • Option 1 for Stroud and Cotswolds
  • Option 2 for Gloucester and Forest
  • Option 3 for Cheltenham, Tewkesbury and North Cotswolds

Please note: telephone calls may be recorded. If you do not want that to happen, please tell the person who answers your call and they will phone you back on a ‘non-recordable’ telephone.

The number is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Occasionally, callers may be asked to leave their name and number on an answerphone. In these circumstances, staff will return the call within one hour.

I am in Herefordshire

If you are in Herefordshire and need support, please call us using one of the following numbers:

  • Monday to Friday, 9am – 5pm, please contact the team or service who currently provide your care.
  • Monday to Friday, 5pm – 9am and 24 hours on weekends and bank holidays, please call our Mental Health Matters Helpline on: 0800 015 7271

These contact numbers are for people already in contact with our services. If you are not currently in contact with us, please call 111 or your GP.

Our out of hours, weekend and bank holiday service is provided by Mental Health Matters.

If you need help but are not in crisis, please contact your GP if in opening hours, or 111. If you don’t have a GP use the NHS service search to locate the nearest one to you. If your query is not urgent, you can find our contact details here.

Are you feeling vulnerable? Do you need to talk to somebody now?

samaritans

Call free on 116 123
If you are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which could lead to suicide, you can call the Samaritans.

Stay Alive App

A pocket suicide prevention resource for the UK, packed full of useful information and tools to help you stay safe in crisis. You can use it if you are having thoughts of suicide or if you are concerned about someone else who may be considering suicide. The app can be accessed through the Apple Store, Google Play and downloaded as a pdf.

childline

Call free on 0800 11 11
If you are a child or a young person you may want to speak to Childline.

selfharm

Call 0808 816 0606
Or text 07537 410 022
A safe, supportive, non-judgmental and informative service for people who self harm, their friends, families and carers.
Opem every day 5pm – 10pm for phone and text support.

I fell pregnant with my daughter Bobby in November 2016 after a miscarriage the previous August. Although the miscarriage made me slightly more anxious about my pregnancy, overall my pregnancy went very smoothly and I looked forward to meeting my baby.

At exactly 42 weeks pregnant, I was induced. This is where it started to go wrong.

It took a total of 30 hours for my baby to be born. We had an unsuccessful epidural, followed by reductions in Bobby’s heart rate. Eventually we ended up in theatre, needing help with forceps. This resulted in a very bad tear and big blood loss for me. I clearly remember staring at the ceiling light in theatre and wondering if I was going to die.

The first few days after giving birth were a blur of exhaustion, but eventually we made it home. After a few weeks I started to realise there was something wrong, more than just “baby blues”. I would close my eyes to go to sleep and flashback to being in theatre. I cried excessively and was very angry and irritable. I couldn’t stop thinking about being in theatre. I felt like a failure and that I wasn’t good enough for my baby. I worried that she didn’t love me or even like me. I was too scared to tell friends and family how I felt because I was worried about what they would think. I also worried that I seemed to find the adjustment to parenting really hard whereas everyone else I knew seemed to be finding it easy.

I was very lucky that I had an amazingly supportive Health Visitor. She asked at every visit how I was feeling and eventually I confessed to her about how I felt. She referred me to Let’s Talk and I was seen within 2 weeks. There I had face to face counselling with a wonderful counsellor called Jane. Together we worked through my traumatic birth experience using cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). Jane helped me to understand that I was not only grieving for my lost pregnancy but also the chance for a happy birth experience. Jane helped me separate the traumatic birth experience from my relationship with Bobby, and recognise that I was good enough to be her Mummy. Jane also helped me to open up to friends and family and I realised that other people were struggling with their new role as a parent too.

Now Bobby is healthy, happy and 21 months old. Although I still feel sad about my birth experience sometimes, I can accept what happened during our birth experience. We have a wonderful relationship and I am so grateful that I get to be her Mummy. I have made some really close Mummy friends who are very supportive and with whom I can be honest. It’s OK not to be OK, and it’s OK to talk about it. No matter how bad things can seem, it can get better if you talk about it.

Find out more

If you are pregnant or have recently had a baby and are feeling low, speak to your midwife, health visitor or GP who will be able to help. Find out more about mental health in pregnancy and as a new mother here. 
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